A note before I start... I come from a socialist background, where it's totally normal to write this kind of article – newspapers will usually publish critiques of themselves, and the atmosphere in discussion means that it's OK to do constructive criticism, (usually) without anyone taking it personally. I'm very aware that feminism in Edinburgh doesn't really have that same culture, particularly anarchafeminism,because it's based on more ad hoc groups, and doesn't really have the structure or media for it. My instinct when I realised just how uncomfortable I was with Femstruation week was to write it down, but I just wanted to write this proviso first: I write this out of respect – because I have huge respect for the organisers, and because feminism is a really big deal for me. This is not a personal attack, and the reason that I feel the need to write it is because it was so impressively organised, and the organisers so passionate and dedicated, that I think that it would do them a disservice not to write it. The point of it is to spark some discussion, so please comment!
Femstruation week was, as it was described to me, about breaking taboos around menstruation. The idea is that none of us should feel embarrassed or uncomfortable about our periods, and that we should all be comfortable with the fact that we bleed once a month, knowledgeable about how it works, and able to take care of ourselves effectively. It took the form of a series of workshops, art exhibitions and performance-orientated events. Their blog is here.
I guess my first question was, why a whole week? I agree that none of us should be freaked out by our periods, and that it would be nice not to have to whisper when asking to borrow a tampon, or, in my case, have people look at me like I'm crazy if I wash out my mooncup in a public bathroom. But the idea of a whole week seemed kind of strange to me. Why put all this effort into taboos about one bodily function when there are so many terrifying issues to be dealt with by feminism? I have to say, my period is not the worst thing about being female-bodied – the unfair pay; the possibility of domestic violence and rape; hell, even just being taken less seriously – they bother me much more. So I guess what I'm saying is, I'm all for these stated goals, but I wasn't sure why there had to be a whole week on them. Why not hold a week of feminist events, or even on a topic like body image, and have a day on menstruation?
As the planning process went on, though, I started to notice a different emphasis going on: the idea of celebrating being a women via menstruation. If this was that goal, then a week makes more sense – but this is the idea that makes me uncomfortable. I'm not sure that I want to celebrate being a woman as such. I mean, I'm not ashamed of it, and I damn well think that I'm as good as any male bodied person, but my aim is to get rid of the idea that we're defined by the sex that society has assigned us, not to perpetuate essentialist ideas about what it means to be a woman. I think the thing to celebrate is all the possibilties that we have, rather than any particular formation of femininity.
I think that maybe Femstruation week did end up essentialisng women, defining “woman” as“someone who menstruates”. On the one hand, this is exclusive because not everyone who is female bodied menstruates – pre-pubescent girls, people who've has the contraceptive injection, post-menopausal women, people with polycystic ovaries or another condition that means they don't menstruate. On the other hand (and as a queer person I think that this is a huge deal), it completely ignores those who identify as a woman without being female bodied, and those who are female bodied, but do not identify as a woman. This excludes a huge number of people who should be engaged with feminism, and it marginalises and alienates people who are already sidelined by society.
This idea comes dangerously close to defining women as mothers, as fertile, as closer to nature. While motherhood is brave and important, and while I value my fertility, our feminist forebears put a lot of effort into making sure the we precisely weren't defined as this. (And as for being closer to nature, I think men should probably be closer to nature as well, what with the threat from climate change.) What our bodies are like shouldn't define who we have to be. While I think it's important that the activities that have been traditionally devalued as female (like baking, or cleaning, or looking after kids) are appreciated for the necessities that they are, the clusters of actions and expressions that society has assigned the name “female” to are not essentially tied to our wombs; the ties are breakable, and I spend a lot of time trying to cut them. All genders should be able to be mechanics or nursery nurses depending on what they fancy doing; and all genders should pull their weight when it comes to childcare and cleaning and thinking about nature too.
I think that all this is worthy of discussion, for sure. It's true that we're made to feel rubbish about our bodies sometimes, but menstruation is by no means the only thing that's an issue. What's more, it's a topic that needs careful handling, in that shame is a pretty powerful emotion – if we're being made to feel ashamed of our bodies by society, we have to be careful about how we present discussions on that, to negotiate this feeling rather than just bulldozing it, because it's not so easily avoidable. I think that the explicitness of a lot of the art and publicity probably made people feel uncomfortable rather than engaging with them, and I object to playing with people's feelings for shock value. I think that, because of this, Femstruation week ended up attracting people who already feel relatively ok with their bodies. It became a celebration by these people of the way that they experience their womanhood, which is fine – but I'm not sure how radical that really is. For me, feminism is about reaching out and engaging people, and affecting change. The scope of Femstruation week was limited to a relatively exclusive set of people, and while it was fun in a lot of ways, it was a real shame that it couldn't engage a wider variety of people in discussion and activism.
